What Indian schools need today?

A year back, sitting in a classroom full of ambitious Indian students a revelation strolled into the room. My teacher (a ‘rebel teacher’ as I choose to call him) walked into the classroom in his colourful casual clothes and said “Hi all. I’m your service provider” and he smiled. He gave an impressive one hour lecture-discussion and said “Thank you for listening”, he waited for all of us to leave the room and then he walked to his staff room like a gentleman. We all know what happens after an unusual episode- usual discussions! Not many got impressed, I could sense from the chat. He in a way challenged their idea of a teacher, Indian values or maybe most of them couldn’t digest the idea of being a ‘knowledge consumer’.
All my life I met teachers who were desperate for respect from the students, they always expected kids to be submissive, studious and unchallenging. Classrooms a monopoly to them, the rules formerly set and those who broke rules got into the black list. Don’t you think this monopoly kills creativity? Why do we want to create a future hub of thoughtless dumb dolls? Wait. Let me make this clear. I’m not asking for a school where kids play the monopoly. A teacher is a service provider, he or she’s getting paid for it. If the consumer likes the product he takes it, doesn’t like it he skips it. (And, the idea of a teacher somehow got reduced to a person who takes teaching as a profession. We are still following a Brahmanical pattern where a trained person with a certificate gets the badge of a teacher. No. From wherever knowledge pours I see a teacher there, which can be a thing, person, group, nature or animal. Indian values taught us Guru is more significant than God but we should remember history that has introduced us Shishyas  far more intelligent and smart than their Gurus and they survived but today? And Guru itself is a twisted word, Guru need not necessarily be a Brahmin or a person with a certificate-badge. )Let me tell you, I have enormous respect towards my ‘rebel teacher’, nature and plenty of ordinary teachers I met on my wanderings. I have learnt far better things and values from them rather than the monotonous preaching of a cubical room. I don’t intend to disrespect teachers with a certificate but how many of them really chose to become a teacher? How many of them thought of bringing a change? How many of them inspired their students? How many of them never got offended when a child asked a question they couldn’t answer? How many of them said Thank you?  We don’t need monopoly in classrooms. We need a healthy strong relationship if the consumer chose to sit in a classroom with a qualified smart service provider. We need discussions, debates and challenges than preaching and punishments and I think perfectly seated classroom itself is so unexciting.

Sex education. Yes Battle of Plassey and Trigonometry can come later, we need to educate children about their body. Today I see children reaching puberty much early than their supposed age and the curiosity about their body and of the opposite sex needs to be accurately addressed. I grew up in a village in Kerala surrounded by conventional people and being born in a Hindu family I had to go through all the rituals of menstruation- I drank ghee and raw eggs mix, slept on a pine mat, did not touch anybody for 3 days, ate on a separate plate like an untouchable and I was allowed to enter only few rooms which needed purification after the wretched three days, worst of all the entire women clan of the family and of the village came to see me with sweets, gold and clothes when I got my first menstruation, it was not an exciting experience at least to me. Interestingly none of the ladies explained what’s happening to my body and I was totally clueless at the age of 11. It was my father who broke all the rules and ‘shamelessly’ explained to me what puberty is, what happens during the special cycle of the month and he gave me a healthy sex education which was unappealing to many of the conventional ladies of my family. He saved me from the tortures I was supposed to follow for the rest of my menstrual years. I lead a ‘normal life’ after my first few menstrual months. But people like my father are rare in a society like mine and I guess schools are the best place for appropriate sex education. By age 10 I wish every child gets a proper education about both male and female body before they seek asylums like internet and unhealthy friendships which may give them an altogether different impression and idea. Sex has always been a taboo in Indian society, people spoke secretly about it but they were a lot curious about it. So why don’t we settle the curiosity by openly talking about it, that too in a much younger age?
The first feminist I met in my life asked me “Can you say vagina in a crowd without any hesitation?” Honestly speaking I couldn’t then. She told me that’s not my problem, it’s the problem of the society. Vagina is just a body part and if you see it as ordinary as a body part then there’s nothing to shy about it. But we always lowered our voices when we spoke of ‘private parts’, we saw people giggling when they went to shop under garments and we all wanted to be the chaste-pure-good-Indian- woman. The alarming increase of sexual assaults in the country is in a way because of wrong or no sex education. It’s time for both men and women to talk about sexuality openly, educate children and young adults on their body, sex and contraception. I don’t understand how sex education threatens Indian culture. Before historic expeditions, chemical combinations, addition and subtraction we need to educate our children about them, their body and its evolution.

 Career counselling! A trend that irritates me is children reducing their career and study options to ‘popular’ Engineering -Medicine (This is India!). If you’re intelligent or got good scores then you should join either Engineering or Medicine (E-M), it gives you a safe future, you ‘at least’ get a professional degree certificate, that’s what they say. Don’t get me wrong, if the real interest lies in E/M, then the kid should definitely go for it.  I knew since very young age that I’m good at my right brain and I knew how to convince my parents but I had to face scary predictions about my future, contempt and hopeless smiles from friends and family.
Rich/Middle class/ Deprived, most Indian parents demand their children to opt E/M, a prestige issue it turned out to be and if someone else went for a different career choice its because he/she did not score well, he/she a joker or their parents were part-poopers. We need counsellors in schools, career counsellors to track the child’s real interest and to motivate him, to make his parents realize and give them insights. We see a lot of  student suicides, highly stressed-mentally depressed kids and worn-out young men quitting their high salaried jobs (mostly engineers today) to do things they like but they do regret the years they spent learning what they did not like and it took plenty more years to undo what they learnt. Why should they waste their years to reach the final enlightenment? Its their skill, interest and values that matter, ultimately its your career that’s gonna shape you. “The biggest risk is not taking any risk”. We need more people to take the less travelled roads, success and failure comes later, the journey itself is an experience.