Mind it: Erotica!


“Shh..Morality! Shh.. Normality!” you must have heard or advised or harshly charged to fall into the concept of ‘normality’ and ‘morality’ at least once in life. In reality what is this Morality? Who created the rules and regulations? What is Normality? How can you say something ‘you don’t agree’ is abnormal? And who are you to tell me to ‘follow your rules’? People who’re stupid enough to think they can break the rules and free themselves from constrains of this morality and normality of a ‘democratic country’ (seriously democratic?!) often fall into the category of ‘the fallen angels’ and I’m glad there’s a minority who knows and feels they’re the enlightened ones.

Everything came late to India, be it industrialization or modernization (are we really modernized? I doubt it. Or maybe partially we are) or enlightenment (oops! We had enlightened human beings like Buddha far before the western world even THOUGHT about it but sadly our people took a lot of time to accept such people and even greater time to understand what they tried conveying to the society) and wonder how long will it take us to accept “kiss of love” to gay-lesbian relationships! (I know you just judged me! I don’t care).

Lalithambika Anatharjanam’s Tatri kutty threw away her palm leaf umbrella, came out to the world and shook the whole of Namboothiri community of Kerala. She is a ‘fallen women’ or a ‘whore’ for many of you, but she is the real heroine or like Antharjanam rightly calls ‘The Goddess of Revenge’ for many of us. It took a while for the conservative community to accept Tatri kutties but Smarthavicharam changed the whole face of a traditionally bound quiet patriarchal public. Kumaran Ashan, Malayali’s favourite love poet boldly wrote the story of Savitri Antharjanam who got married to her love, lower caste Chattan in his ‘Duravastha’ and it took a lot of time for many of us to digest it. Arundhathi Roy’s ‘God of Small Things’ after winning the most prestigious Booker Prize also got criticized in the middle-of-the-road societies where they found it un-amusing to read of Ammu having an affair with Velutha. Today when young spirited souls kissed and hugged in public ‘protesting for love’ (Kiss of Love- November 2, 2014, Kerala), Kerala’s most prestigious and celebrated moral policing community had a problem. Well, my constitution allows me some personal liberties if you didn’t know and kissing is a crime?Oh yes! Our society is culture bound-traditional one! I remember. Our Bhakthi, Sangam poetry celebrated the idea of love. What about the many sculptures in our temples- the extreme expression of love and sexuality? Forget it. What about the four Purusharthas- dharma, artha, 'kama' and moksha? (the goals of human life according to Hinduism!) . Coming back to Indian constitution. Oh yeah, showing public affection is a crime! Enlighten me in which part of our constitution? Wait! Are we still democratic?

Sexual orientation has been another problem. “ OMG! GAYYY?”  I've heard this from a lot of people with a spoon full of amusement, shock and revolt. What’s so abnormal about it? Indian society has the tradition of worshiping Ardhanarishwar  ( OMG the linga too)finds it sickening to talk about homosexuality. Argh!!! What kind of people are you? In some situation you totally agree (and even worship) it and in some other situation you totally disgust it. Homosexuality is not a crime. (I don’t know what’s wrong with our constitution today,its 'illegal'). It is not by a person's choice that he becomes a homosexual or heterosexual or whatever, he or she is born that way. And who created the norms of what you call ‘normality’? What if ‘being heterosexual’ or ‘straight’ ( haha what's that?) is abnormal? I want Tim Crooks and Neil Patricks here...assert your identity man!

From Heer and Ranjha to Pareekutti and Karuthamma are martyrs of love. Still we have a society that opposes love, showing affection and even falling in love! What have we learnt from our past? What has or history tried to teach us? What has the innumerable writers, artists and filmmakers tried conveying to us? If a person chose not to love, hug and kiss then another person has the exact same right to love, hug and kiss. Its all about personal choice. We live in a 'secular- democratic country, modernized and industrialized' (ahem!) and every person has the “personal liberty” to do what he please (without creating any problem or harm to the society. I don’t know what problem others have if two people kiss). Moreover no person has the right to physically or verbally harm someone. If anyone had a problem with "kissing" they should gone to the court or to the police than attacking the people. I’m hopeful... time…our society needs time, to enlighten themselves, to accept ‘abnormality’ and walk ahead! Its time to handle moral policing!!!

“ The world is born when two people kiss”. Let us wait and see when that world is gonna be accepted. Or let us not wait and show them how to kiss! :*


-These are my strong personal views, if you have a problem I can't do anything about it. Happy Reading (: